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Relationships: How We Need Each other

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 One measure of life is not how we see ourselves but how others see us. To be specific, how others need us, and the roles we play in relationships that we create. We can think of these roles from the greatest amount of power to the control of the weakest. Your value system in one way or the other determines the kind of relationships you give in to. I will Draw your attention to some few facts in relationship via the different relationship categories you can find yourself;

  • The Needy: Some will look up to you to hold them up, bail them out, take over when they are overwhelmed, and make things right. You may take on this role because it is part of your values —Helping the needy — but this may be the allure of being needed. This relationship is unbalanced. The danger is that you get burned out, that you don’t feel appreciated or that they eventually outgrow you, leaving you alone and looking for someone else to save.
  • The Helper: You’re the guy everyone always hits up to be on that church committee, to run the bake sale for the PTA, to be the assistant coach for the kids’ soccer team. Unlike the Needy, you’re not saving anyone, but like them, helping may be part of your values and feeling needing may draw you in. You also may have a difficult time saying no and setting boundaries, thereby making yourself a man-pleaser. The danger here is this; you will burnout with periodic resentment because you’re doing the heavy lifting when others are not, or because everyone seems to take you for granted.
  • The Decision-maker: Others turn to you for your knowledge, your leadership, your ability to be the final word on big decisions. There are several variations. In the most positive version, others respect you and see you as a sage because of your experience and/or age. Some others may come to you because they see you as a drill sergeant who is in control and runs a tight ship, and they are afraid to make independent decisions. In a milder version, they are not afraid, but through your attitude and direction, you have trained others to be dependent on you. The down side of this category is – You get control at the cost of having to be responsible for and often essentially do it all. Like the others, you can get burned out, resentful, or upset when others leave because they are tired of your control and/or outgrow you.
  • The Confidant: You’re easy to talk to and to open up to, and people share their secrets and troubles with you. You may not offer wisdom that much but offer honest and healing listening. Empathy comes with your personality. Like the others, your values include helping others. You appreciate the intimacy. Like the Needy category, the relationship can be unbalanced, and intimacy may be one-sided. You give, but maybe you don’t get or at least don’t get much.
  • Balanced Intimacy: In this category, it is “give and take” and “helping and being helped”. This is relatively balanced, and the intimacy is two-sided. You have the desire for balance and the ability to be sensitive to others but able to set boundaries; there is no strong need to be in charge, be in control or be important.  80% of human are involved in this kind of relationship while the remaining 20% is involved in the other categories consciously or unconsciously.
  • The “Self- centered”: Here, People don’t seem to need you. People don’t see you as reliable, or they believe that you are too preoccupied with your own issues or needy. Or you seem to put up emotional walls and set firm boundaries, creating a sense of self-sufficiency and detachment that keeps others from approaching you. You too are in unbalanced relationships in which you take but don’t give much back, which causes resentment and burnout in others because your emotional walls radiate negative energy while your dependency on others makes you fearful of their pulling away. And if you adopt the self-sufficiency stance you may avoid the burnout or resentment of the other roles, but at the cost of isolation and a lack of true intimacy.

Every human being on this earth fall under one or more of these categories. It’s necessary to figure out which category is predominant with you, check the downsides and upsides, and resolve to making your relationship experience a better one. Also, this will help you in self-discovery and development. Valentine is here!!! Everyone needs a show of love one way or the other and understanding these categories of relationships will help you in improving your relationship.

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#Jerusalema: The story behind one of the most Shazamed songs in the world

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#Jerusalema: DJ Master KG

The story behind Master KG’s ‘Jerusalema,’ one of the most Shazamed songs in the world

“‘But it’s very late,'” Nomcebo recalled telling him. “‘You want me to come now?'”
When she got there, the beat Master KG played gave her goosebumps; she loved it. It would later come together as the global hit, “Jerusalema.”
However, Nomcebo didn’t think she could come up with lyrics right away and asked if she could work on it at home. Master KG gave her the confidence she needed to do it that night, but she still shooed him out of the recording room so she could have some space to think.
After a few more listens, Nomcebo had an epiphany.
“Something came out from my mouth. And I was like ‘Master KG, come back, come back. Where’s the earphones?’ And then we recorded around midnight,” she said.

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Though the lyrics are sung in Zulu, “Jerusalema” quickly rose to global fame. At the time of publication, the track is the second-most Shazamed song in the world — behind only BTS’s “Dynamite” — and the music video has over 185 million views on YouTube and counting.
The song has already landed Master KG five African Muzik Magazine Awards (AFRIMMA) nominations and countless celebrity shout-outs — in part thanks to the global dance challenge inspired by the song.

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Rolls Royce unveils “Bumblebee 5000” car based on 11-year-old girl’s winning entry to “Best Futuristic Concepts Competition”

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Rolls Royce unveils “Bumblebee 5000” car based on 11-year-old girl’s winning entry to best futuristic concepts competition

Rolls-Royce has unveiled what may be the future of motor transport – a car based on a bumblebee and powered by honey. 

The prestigious British car manufacturer brought to life a series of the best futuristic concepts.

This included the outlandish bee car which features wings and was designed by an 11-year-old schoolgirl identified as “Sofia”.

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More than 5,000 designs and blueprints were submitted by children across 80 countries as part of a competition during the lockdown. 

It was devised to provide a creative outlet for children aged 16 and under confined by Covid-19 lockdown restrictions.  

The firm’s design team at Goodwood, West Sussex, then used the same software they would for a real Rolls-Royce project to digitally enhance the drawings. The UK winner of the Rolls-Royce Young Designer Competition was Sofia, 11, with her Bumblebee 5000+9

The UK winner of the Rolls-Royce Young Designer Competition was Sofia, 11, with her Bumblebee 5000

The UK winner of the Young Designer Competition was 11-year-old Sofia with her Rolls-Royce Bumblebee 5000 which the CEO of Rolls Royce described as ‘quite extraordinary’. 

A delighted Sofia said: ‘The Bumblebee 5000 is the very best way to travel and to have parties in with your family and friends. 

‘Moving smoothly, it will take you wherever you want to go with style and having fun. 

‘With comfortable tables and chairs, a disco ball, the best surround sound system, WiFi, GPS, a hook for luggage and much more, it makes it the best option on the automobile market. 

‘You will never see anything else like it.’  The competition saw more than 5,000 designs and blueprints submitted by children across 80 countries during lockdown+9

The competition saw more than 5,000 designs and blueprints submitted by children across 80 countries during lockdown

CEO of Rolls-Royce Motor Cars “Torsten Müller-Ötvös” agreed, saying: ‘The entries that stood out for us were those that showed a real depth of thought, effort and expression, and incorporated lots of different details. 

‘The best didn’t just draw “the nicest car”: they created amazing experiences that showed the freedom of their imagination, not hindered by physical, real-world constraints. The winning entry is quite extraordinary.’ 

Head of Bespoke Design Gavin Hartley added: ‘We were particularly drawn to Bumblebee 5000 because it’s all about sociability, having fun, sharing good times and having the finer things in life, which is exactly what Rolls-Royce is all about. 

‘It also reflected our own interest as a company in the natural world and bees in particular.The Bluebird II was designed by Chenyang, aged 13 from China, and won the technology category+9

The Bluebird II was designed by Chenyang, aged 13 from China, and won the technology categoryThe Capsule was designed by six-year-old Saya from Japan and won the environment category+9

The Capsule was designed by six-year-old Saya from Japan and won the environment category.

Sofia’s school is to have an electric car kit installed, enabling them to participate in future Greenpower motorsport events. 

She also won a chauffeur-driven ride to school in a Rolls-Royce with her best friend. 

There were no rules or specified judging criteria to constrain entrants and children could let their imagination run free, creating designs of richness, creativity and diversity. Florian, aged 16 from France, designed the Turtle Car which can transport passengers by sea, land and air. The entry won the fantasy category+9

Florian, aged 16 from France, designed the Turtle Car which can transport passengers by sea, land and air. The entry won the fantasy category For the fun category Léna, aged 11 from Hungary, designed a colourful vehicle called Glow+9

For the fun category Léna, aged 11 from Hungary, designed a colourful vehicle called Glow

The original deadline for entries was extended after the competition proved an instant success.  

There were four other category winners in technology, environment, fantasy and fun with winners from across the world and ranging in age from six to 16. 

The technology winner was Chenyang, 13 from China, who designed the Rolls-Royce Bluebird II while the environment category was won by six-year-old Saya from Japan for the Rolls-Royce Capsule design. 

The Turtle Car by Florian, 16 from France, which can transport passengers by land, sea and air won the fantasy category and Léna, 11 from Hungary, won the fun category for the Rolls-Royce Glow. 

Three entries came highly commended, including Bolt which was designed by Declan, aged 10 from the United Kingdom. 

The other two highly commended entries were nine-year-old Tim from Germany for Prosperity and six-year-old Alisa from Russia for House of Esperanto. The Pinnacle of Intergalactic Space Travel: Ten-year-old Declan's design Bolt was highly commended by the judges+9

The Pinnacle of Intergalactic Space Travel: Ten-year-old Declan’s design Bolt was highly commended by the judgesNine-year-old Tim from Germany was also highly commended for his design Prosperity+9

Nine-year-old Tim from Germany was also highly commended for his design Prosperity Alissa, aged six from Russia, designed the House of Esperanto vehicle, which can communicate with every creature and combines house and car, was highly commended+9

Alissa, aged six from Russia, designed the House of Esperanto vehicle, which can communicate with every creature and combines house and car, was highly commended

Mr Müller-Ötvös said: ‘On behalf of myself and everyone at Rolls-Royce, I would like to thank every single Young Designer who entered the competition, and for all the thought, hard work and creativity that went into their designs. 

‘There is some amazing talent out there, and I wouldn’t be surprised if some of our entrants went on to work as car designers one day – perhaps even at Rolls-Royce.

‘The most important thing I’ve learned from this competition is that whatever our circumstances, we have the power to create amazing things, because our imagination is always free to fly. 

‘I hope the children who took part will recognise this, too, and that it will be something positive they can take from their pandemic experience.’

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Organization Reaffirms Commitment to Support FG through Youth Employment (Video)

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Domak Shelter Ltd.

A private organization, ‘Domak Group’ has reaffirmed its commitment to support the Federal Government in creating employment for the youth to move the nation forward.

Mr. Kingsley Azonobi, Managing Director of Domak Shelter Ltd. disclosed this in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) on Friday, 9th October in Abuja.

Azonobi said the support initiative was as a result of the organization’s activity to celebrate the 60 years of Nigerians living together as one entity and as most dynamic and innovative people.

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In his speech, he said “The journey has been excellent, educative, interesting and encouraging in the sense that we are still together, it is not that easy to hold on to a nation.

“So many elements have tried to break us apart, but Nigeria cannot break, no matter what anybody wants to do, we are one Nigeria and we will remain one.

“It has been a very successful journey so far; the motivation behind Domak empowering youths and the needy is borne out of passion to give back to the country.

“We tried our best to motivate unemployed youths; we just issued employment letters to six youths out of many that we have employed during COVID-19, in spite of many companies shutting down.

“We reviewed our strategies and came up with lots of initiatives to create employment within this lockdown; we have employed not less than 35 youths and other Nigerians.

“We have added a lot of job opportunities to this government and that is what we are here for, to support the government,” he explained.

Azonobi urged Nigerians to always speak positively about their fatherland, adding that negative things come to people who speak negatively, while positive things attract good things of life.

He decried negative messages by people on the social media about Nigeria that portray the image of the country negatively.

“Once you speak positively about your nation, you will get what you speak,” Azonobi said.

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