I saw a viral video of how a married woman confronted a side-chic over her husband’s act of infidelity towards her as a wife. A lot of reactions and comments flying here and there on social media; People airing their views and opinions on this subject matter. Some comments were good, some were bad while some were really funny. However, I’m dedicating this piece to all strong women out there who paused their dreams at some point in life because of a man.
Most times we seem to forget our self-worth; we tend to crawl back into our shell whenever life hits us hard. It’s okay if we do that but for how long? Looking good is a good business, staying in shape and looking all hot and sexy for your man after having some kids with him is still okay but after that what happens next?
Before you met that man you, had some dreams and life goals you wanted to achieve, what happened to them? Have you ever asked yourself- What is my personality? Who am I and what do I have to offer?
Most women only move around with the consciousness of “I’m a Lady” neglecting the aura that comes with the sense of purpose behind “Being a Lady”. Do you even know your worth as a woman? Do you carry yourself with confidence? Do you study or work hard to add value to yourself and family? It’s a pity that some women don’t even know their rights and privileges as a woman, that is why you let yourself get tossed around by your man.
For the married women, I have a question for you- do you have any identity outside your husband? If your answer is “Yes”- Great!! You deserve some accolades but if your answer is “No” that is because you abandoned your dreams and drives at the altar of marriage. This defines why you appear insignificant the moment your husband starts drifting away from his commitment to you as a wife.
It is every woman’s desire to be loved, treasured and respected. For you to enjoy this, Self-development and Capacity building has a vital role to play. The mistake most women make is tying that knot with your man when you haven’t answered the basic questions you need to ask yourself as a woman- “What is my personality? Who am I? and What do I have to offer?” Stepping into that marriage“Empty in terms of purpose” can be frustrating and disastrous. If I must put it this way, “You cheated yourself even before the man cheated on you”. A piece of advice- Never abandon your dreams and life goals on the altar of marriage. Life is a school, you only graduate when you die therefore don’t stop building and developing yourself (mentally) even after marriage.
You might base the excuse on your negligence on you having kids and all that… “kids are hard work” Yes, we know!! They are really adorable!! but you shouldn’t lose yourself either. It is your due diligence to balance your life goals with your family duties. You should make it a personal task to always be on top of your games. There are lots of successful mothers with great impacts on the society as well as in their homes.
The war against side-chics shouldn’t be a physical confrontation just like the woman in the viral video did. You can only win this war when step up your games on your role as a “wife” and as a “woman of purpose”. Be that intellectual and irresistible woman who knows her worth and has value to offer besides “sex”. Be that woman whom a man is afraid to cheat on because he doesn’t want to lose her. Be that uncommon woman which a man cannot easily replace with any other because your qualities are rare to come by.
It is a proven fact that 80 % men are polygamous in nature and no matter how sophisticated their woman is, they still derive pleasure in cheating. Real men are attracted to intelligent ladies and women of wisdom. Can your man confidently discuss a disturbing business deal with you because he trusts your wise judgement? Can you make a logical and meaningful input in controversial situations?
Therefore, I will urge all the strong women who sacrificed their dreams and life-goals on the altar of marriage or gave up on their dreams along the line because of a man; Yeah! I understand your pain and frustration but you need to dust yourself up, pick up whatever is left of you…go back to wherever you abandoned your dreams- Step by step, re-visit them one after another. Any man who claims he loves you will always support your visions for your life as woman. He won’t make you give up on your dreams because you chose to settle for him.
Finally, build your self-esteem by being conscious of your worth and who you are. Strive to be that irreplaceable; also worthy of note- live for yourself, your goals and your interests with this you have this inner fulfillment and happiness in you.
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Rolls Royce unveils “Bumblebee 5000” car based on 11-year-old girl’s winning entry to “Best Futuristic Concepts Competition”
Rolls Royce unveils “Bumblebee 5000” car based on 11-year-old girl’s winning entry to best futuristic concepts competition
Rolls-Royce has unveiled what may be the future of motor transport – a car based on a bumblebee and powered by honey.
The prestigious British car manufacturer brought to life a series of the best futuristic concepts.
This included the outlandish bee car which features wings and was designed by an 11-year-old schoolgirl identified as “Sofia”.
More than 5,000 designs and blueprints were submitted by children across 80 countries as part of a competition during the lockdown.
It was devised to provide a creative outlet for children aged 16 and under confined by Covid-19 lockdown restrictions.
The firm’s design team at Goodwood, West Sussex, then used the same software they would for a real Rolls-Royce project to digitally enhance the drawings. +9
The UK winner of the Rolls-Royce Young Designer Competition was Sofia, 11, with her Bumblebee 5000
The UK winner of the Young Designer Competition was 11-year-old Sofia with her Rolls-Royce Bumblebee 5000 which the CEO of Rolls Royce described as ‘quite extraordinary’.
A delighted Sofia said: ‘The Bumblebee 5000 is the very best way to travel and to have parties in with your family and friends.
‘Moving smoothly, it will take you wherever you want to go with style and having fun.
‘With comfortable tables and chairs, a disco ball, the best surround sound system, WiFi, GPS, a hook for luggage and much more, it makes it the best option on the automobile market.
‘You will never see anything else like it.’ +9
The competition saw more than 5,000 designs and blueprints submitted by children across 80 countries during lockdown
CEO of Rolls-Royce Motor Cars “Torsten Müller-Ötvös” agreed, saying: ‘The entries that stood out for us were those that showed a real depth of thought, effort and expression, and incorporated lots of different details.
‘The best didn’t just draw “the nicest car”: they created amazing experiences that showed the freedom of their imagination, not hindered by physical, real-world constraints. The winning entry is quite extraordinary.’
Head of Bespoke Design Gavin Hartley added: ‘We were particularly drawn to Bumblebee 5000 because it’s all about sociability, having fun, sharing good times and having the finer things in life, which is exactly what Rolls-Royce is all about.
‘It also reflected our own interest as a company in the natural world and bees in particular.+9
The Bluebird II was designed by Chenyang, aged 13 from China, and won the technology category+9
The Capsule was designed by six-year-old Saya from Japan and won the environment category.
Sofia’s school is to have an electric car kit installed, enabling them to participate in future Greenpower motorsport events.
She also won a chauffeur-driven ride to school in a Rolls-Royce with her best friend.
There were no rules or specified judging criteria to constrain entrants and children could let their imagination run free, creating designs of richness, creativity and diversity. +9
Florian, aged 16 from France, designed the Turtle Car which can transport passengers by sea, land and air. The entry won the fantasy category +9
For the fun category Léna, aged 11 from Hungary, designed a colourful vehicle called Glow
The original deadline for entries was extended after the competition proved an instant success.
There were four other category winners in technology, environment, fantasy and fun with winners from across the world and ranging in age from six to 16.
The technology winner was Chenyang, 13 from China, who designed the Rolls-Royce Bluebird II while the environment category was won by six-year-old Saya from Japan for the Rolls-Royce Capsule design.
The Turtle Car by Florian, 16 from France, which can transport passengers by land, sea and air won the fantasy category and Léna, 11 from Hungary, won the fun category for the Rolls-Royce Glow.
Three entries came highly commended, including Bolt which was designed by Declan, aged 10 from the United Kingdom.
The other two highly commended entries were nine-year-old Tim from Germany for Prosperity and six-year-old Alisa from Russia for House of Esperanto. +9
The Pinnacle of Intergalactic Space Travel: Ten-year-old Declan’s design Bolt was highly commended by the judges+9
Nine-year-old Tim from Germany was also highly commended for his design Prosperity +9
Alissa, aged six from Russia, designed the House of Esperanto vehicle, which can communicate with every creature and combines house and car, was highly commended
Mr Müller-Ötvös said: ‘On behalf of myself and everyone at Rolls-Royce, I would like to thank every single Young Designer who entered the competition, and for all the thought, hard work and creativity that went into their designs.
‘There is some amazing talent out there, and I wouldn’t be surprised if some of our entrants went on to work as car designers one day – perhaps even at Rolls-Royce.
‘The most important thing I’ve learned from this competition is that whatever our circumstances, we have the power to create amazing things, because our imagination is always free to fly.
‘I hope the children who took part will recognise this, too, and that it will be something positive they can take from their pandemic experience.’
Organization Reaffirms Commitment to Support FG through Youth Employment (Video)
A private organization, ‘Domak Group’ has reaffirmed its commitment to support the Federal Government in creating employment for the youth to move the nation forward.
Mr. Kingsley Azonobi, Managing Director of Domak Shelter Ltd. disclosed this in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) on Friday, 9th October in Abuja.
Azonobi said the support initiative was as a result of the organization’s activity to celebrate the 60 years of Nigerians living together as one entity and as most dynamic and innovative people.
In his speech, he said “The journey has been excellent, educative, interesting and encouraging in the sense that we are still together, it is not that easy to hold on to a nation.
“So many elements have tried to break us apart, but Nigeria cannot break, no matter what anybody wants to do, we are one Nigeria and we will remain one.
“It has been a very successful journey so far; the motivation behind Domak empowering youths and the needy is borne out of passion to give back to the country.
“We tried our best to motivate unemployed youths; we just issued employment letters to six youths out of many that we have employed during COVID-19, in spite of many companies shutting down.
“We reviewed our strategies and came up with lots of initiatives to create employment within this lockdown; we have employed not less than 35 youths and other Nigerians.
“We have added a lot of job opportunities to this government and that is what we are here for, to support the government,” he explained.
Azonobi urged Nigerians to always speak positively about their fatherland, adding that negative things come to people who speak negatively, while positive things attract good things of life.
He decried negative messages by people on the social media about Nigeria that portray the image of the country negatively.
“Once you speak positively about your nation, you will get what you speak,” Azonobi said.
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